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Thread: Support for Children who are carers to type 1 diabetic parent/s

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    Support for Children who are carers to type 1 diabetic parent/s

    I have a question to start with: "Do you feel, as a type 1 diabetic, that this has affected your quality of life?"

    Back in 1988, my mother was 27 years old, and one night she turned from an ordinary mother with 2 small children and a wife into a very sick one, rushed to the hospital, spent 12 days there in a state of stabilization and was diagnosed as type 1 diabetes. She was prescribed a regimen of 3 daily doses of insulin and a night dose without any advice, support or care for any of us. Diabetes destroyed our family and separated us, as my mother never had any warning signs of hypo, accidents often happened, and, according to my father, he did not know what he would find at home after finishing work (he worked at Royal Mail). After 10 years, he couldn't cope anymore and decided to divorce my mom because he couldn't cope anymore (diabetes wasn't the only reason, but it had a huge impact), and he asked us kids who we would like to go with. I was 10 years old and my brother was 12. My brother had no choice but to go with my dad since my brother and mom didn't get along, but it was all up to me to decide. I had to grow up very quickly, and I said that I needed to look after my mom, since I couldn't leave her alone. As a teenager, I looked after my mom, not knowing what I would come home to, as my father did, she never had warning signs of hyposis, no support network, just me and mom. As you can imagine, it was very difficult for both of us for many years to cope with what was falling on us, until 3 years ago, a diabetologist nurse was attached to my mother, who regularly checks her, works with her to try to control her diabetes. Sometimes I feel like it's a little late, since we needed support from the very beginning, but I swear to God, I'm grateful.

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    A very touching story, good luck to you and health to your family

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    You have a very complicated history and a difficult childhood. Your father had no right to leave you, and separating you from your brother is a foolish and selfish decision. My adopted son has a similar story; my husband and I decided to go to Portland, Oregon, adoption agencies and adopt a boy with a complicated life; his mother also had diabetes. First, everything was expected, the whole family and so on, but then, when his mother was much worse, his father just left their life. And that boy stayed with his mother, sometimes they had nothing to eat, and he went around asking for money. But at one point, his mother passed away, and he was taken to the proper authorities. It took him a long time to get used to us, but now he calls us Mom and Dad.

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